Pointers Regarding Better Understanding Bullies
Posted By baiyangcity on June 21, 2011
We talked about bullies several weeks back, when the Street Fighter video was being circulated on every computer from here to Sydney, Australia. The general consensus with bullying is that it fundamentally is a part of human instinct, and frequently, is not as exclusive to kids as we imagine. The main question is, how can you cope with it, as well as prevent it from damaging your self-esteem?
This not too long ago got my particular attention: a write-up which tells the story of a young girl who had been given an otoplasty to “pin back her ears.”
“Cami Roselles…decided that her daughter should have otoplasty…She hopes this will keep other children from ridiculing her. The surgery will cost approximately $5,000 to $10,000 and is not covered by Roselles’s insurance.”
To start with, picture what you could do with ten thousand bucks. Put your child to college or university for one year, maybe two? Pay for medical bills for a couple of years? Put it towards half a year rent? The list goes on and on.
Probably the most troubling portion of this write-up is the fact that the mother is coming up with a major medical decision for her seven year old child, who is hardly old enough to tie her very own shoes, let alone understand what plastic surgery is. Basically, she has no idea the gravity of the decision which is being made for her.
The mother thought that the cosmetic surgery will help stop the ridiculing her daughter was going through from “bullies.” While I’m sure that her intentions were all good, her measures, are certainly not. Let’s think for a moment just what her mom was trying to do. Her little girl had something which other children were making fun of, hence, she naturally tried to stop them from making fun of it by literally getting rid of it from her daughter.
Just what does this show her child? In case you have something which others laugh at, that you should just eliminate it? Suppose you happen to be 3 feet tall and the kids make fun of you simply because they could see over you? Let’s say you have bad eyes and you need to use glasses? Would it be wrong to ask Mom and Dad for a two thousand dollar eye surgery for Christmas?
The point is, everybody is unique, and that’s what makes us great. Everyone is usually going to find something faulty with us, they’re going to attempt to put us down, but that’s life. Every time that someone tries to put you down, never run away, use it as an opportunity to rise up for yourself. Yes, I know, that is much easier said than done. Running away (or getting plastic surgery) will always be much easier. But there’s a big difference between what is easier as well as what’s better for us. One will be more challenging compared to the other, yet there’s a reason for that…it’s due to the fact that one helps make us strong and the other causes us to be fragile.
The fact that someone doesn’t like something about us, by the end of the day, it is not our predicament…it’s their own. We are all one-of-a-kind as well as we’re all different. The simple fact that somebody attempts to take that from us mainly because we are different isn’t a bad thing. It’s an opportunity to persist for ourselves as well as to earn respect. I had to spend quite a while to build that personally, I didn’t really run away, yet I also didn’t ignore it. Not until I was out of college did I recognize that I did not need to tolerate it any longer.
What should you do when somebody makes fun of you or questions your identiity? You say to them one thing…
Okay.
“I don’t appreciate your ears, they stick out funny…”
Okay.
“You’re too short…”
Okay.
Bullies are what they are mainly because they are not often the smartest, or sharpest, tool in the shed. In case there’s something they fear more than somebody who is bigger than them, it is somebody who sticks up for themselves, and most significantly, isn’t affected by anything they do.
I cannot help but act in response like this when I read the article. We are talking about a perfectly healthy, apparently very smart as well as nice 7 year old young girl, with ears that stick out…
Exactly why that is an issue is beyond me.
Just like a lot of things nowadays, people would usually try and take the easy solution. The actual issue is, what is it that we’re hoping to get out of?
It’s simply my standpoint, let me know what you think in the feedback below…
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